diff --git a/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueue.kt b/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueue.kt
index fb40475a..3c95a9c7 100644
--- a/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueue.kt
+++ b/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueue.kt
@@ -79,6 +79,11 @@ internal class NostrPendingEventQueue(
         }
     }
 
+    fun removeRelay(relayUrl: String) = synchronized(lock) {
+        entries.forEach { it.pendingRelayUrls.remove(relayUrl) }
+        entries.removeAll { it.pendingRelayUrls.isEmpty() }
+    }
+
     fun removeLiveLocationEvents() {
         synchronized(lock) {
             entries.removeAll { it.liveLocationToken != null }
diff --git a/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrRelayManager.kt b/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrRelayManager.kt
index ca619345..d8956640 100644
--- a/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrRelayManager.kt
+++ b/app/src/main/java/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrRelayManager.kt
@@ -83,6 +83,7 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
     private val _customRelays = MutableStateFlow<List<String>>(emptyList())
     val customRelays: StateFlow<List<String>> = _customRelays.asStateFlow()
     private var customRelaysLoaded = false
+    private val removedCustomRelayUrls = java.util.concurrent.ConcurrentHashMap.newKeySet<String>()
 
     @Synchronized
     private fun loadCustomRelays(context: android.content.Context) {
@@ -101,6 +102,7 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
         if (url in defaultRelays()) return true
         if (_customRelays.value.size >= 20) return false
         val previousDefaults = defaultRelays().toSet()
+        removedCustomRelayUrls.remove(url)
         _customRelays.value = _customRelays.value + url
         persistCustomRelays()
         nonLiveRelayUrls.add(url)
@@ -116,6 +118,8 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
     @Synchronized
     fun removeCustomRelay(url: String) {
         if (url !in _customRelays.value) return
+        removedCustomRelayUrls.add(url)
+        messageQueue.removeRelay(url)
         _customRelays.value = _customRelays.value - url
         persistCustomRelays()
         activeSubscriptions.replaceAll { _, subscription ->
@@ -930,7 +934,7 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
         urlString: String,
         liveLocationToken: Long? = null
     ) {
-        if (!desiredConnected.get()) return
+        if (!desiredConnected.get() || urlString in removedCustomRelayUrls) return
         val connectionToken = liveLocationToken
             ?.takeIf { urlString !in nonLiveRelayUrls }
         if (!isNetworkActionAllowed(connectionToken)) return
@@ -945,6 +949,7 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
                 .build()
             
             val started = runNetworkAction(connectionToken) {
+                if (urlString in removedCustomRelayUrls) return@runNetworkAction
                 val webSocket = httpClient.newWebSocket(
                     request,
                     RelayWebSocketListener(urlString, connectionToken)
@@ -952,7 +957,7 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
                 val existing = connections.putIfAbsent(urlString, webSocket)
                 when {
                     existing != null -> webSocket.close(1000, "Duplicate connection")
-                    !desiredConnected.get() -> {
+                    !desiredConnected.get() || urlString in removedCustomRelayUrls -> {
                         connections.remove(urlString, webSocket)
                         webSocket.close(1000, "Connection no longer desired")
                     }
@@ -973,14 +978,14 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
         liveLocationToken: Long? = null,
         publicationAllowed: () -> Boolean = { true }
     ): Boolean {
-        if (!publicationAllowed() || !isNetworkActionAllowed(liveLocationToken)) return false
+        if (!publicationAllowed() || relayUrl in removedCustomRelayUrls || !isNetworkActionAllowed(liveLocationToken)) return false
         return try {
             val request = NostrRequest.Event(event)
             val message = gson.toJson(request, NostrRequest::class.java)
 
             var success = false
             runNetworkAction(liveLocationToken) {
-                if (publicationAllowed()) success = webSocket.send(message)
+                if (publicationAllowed() && relayUrl !in removedCustomRelayUrls) success = webSocket.send(message)
             }
             if (success) {
                 // Update relay stats
@@ -1238,7 +1243,7 @@ class NostrRelayManager private constructor() {
     ) : WebSocketListener() {
         
         override fun onOpen(webSocket: WebSocket, response: Response) {
-            if (!desiredConnected.get() ||
+            if (!desiredConnected.get() || relayUrl in removedCustomRelayUrls ||
                 connections[relayUrl] !== webSocket ||
                 !isNetworkActionAllowed(liveLocationToken)
             ) {
diff --git a/app/src/test/kotlin/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueueTest.kt b/app/src/test/kotlin/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueueTest.kt
index b8e5fa9b..37747a38 100644
--- a/app/src/test/kotlin/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueueTest.kt
+++ b/app/src/test/kotlin/com/bitchat/android/nostr/NostrPendingEventQueueTest.kt
@@ -82,6 +82,17 @@ class NostrPendingEventQueueTest {
         assertEquals(0, queue.size())
     }
 
+    @Test
+    fun `removing a relay drops its pending work without losing other deliveries`() {
+        val queue = NostrPendingEventQueue(4)
+        queue.enqueue(event("shared"), listOf("removed", "retained"), null)
+        queue.enqueue(event("removed-only"), listOf("removed"), null)
+        queue.removeRelay("removed")
+        assertEquals(0, queue.pendingForRelay("removed").size)
+        assertEquals(listOf("shared"), queue.pendingForRelay("retained").map { it.event.content })
+        assertEquals(1, queue.size())
+    }
+
     private fun event(content: String): NostrEvent {
         val privateKey = "0".repeat(63) + "1"
         return NostrEvent(
diff --git a/docs/ios-feature-parity-review.md b/docs/ios-feature-parity-review.md
index 29d1cf9d..a27d28d5 100644
--- a/docs/ios-feature-parity-review.md
+++ b/docs/ios-feature-parity-review.md
@@ -116,8 +116,8 @@ Physical Mesh Lab and Android-to-iOS interoperability are required separately:
 - One-time-prekey races and consumption persistence, plus iOS vectors on both
   real clients. Static screenshots cannot establish any of these properties.
 
-The updated panic-help sentence falls back to English where previous translations
-still promised immediate erasure; those stale claims are removed. Full locale coverage, accessibility review and the physical matrix remain
+The updated panic-help sentence uses the English resource fallback until translated.
+Full locale coverage, accessibility review and the physical matrix remain
 release work. Manual-channel Nostr board publication still obeys the existing
 location-note privacy gate; this integration does not weaken it to force a
 successful publish. No claim is made that this large integration is ready to